Posted a new video on my YouTube channel after like months of inactivity 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ cause ya know, #momlife
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Posted a new video on my YouTube channel after like months of inactivity 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️ cause ya know, #momlife
Check it out…
Where do I even begin? I don’t know. My mind is a constant jumble of mess literally all of the time. I swear becoming a Mom has hindered my ability at being a normal person. I have a lot to say and share and I so want to blog/vlog about all of it but I’m struggling to find time. I have no time for myself as it is let alone time to do things that spark joy for me.
At the same time, I’m cognizant of the fact that by not making time for the things that rejuvenate my soul and foster my creativity I’m going to continue to feel this very unfulfilled angst. It sounds horrible for a wife and mom to say she doesn’t feel fulfillment and by doing so I can sense the judgement that will be thrown my way. But hear me out on this.
Im clearly no expert on life, motherhood and wifey stuff, but what I’m learning though is that if you don’t take care of yourself you can’t take care of everyone else as adequately as you aspire to. It sounds so redundant and cliche to say “you can’t pour from an empty cup” but it’s the most truthful saying I can think of that rings totally true for my current state of life and my mindset.
While you are in the thick of it though (meaning the chaos, demanding schedules, toddler tantrums, lack of sleep and sticky floors) you can’t see this. The urge to do anything but parent/wife/work make you feel like one of those three things are slacking which makes you feel like a failure and like you aren’t living up to the impossible and invisible set of standards that you have set for yourself in your anxiety ridden and sleep deprived mind. So you let things fall to the wayside out of guilt and obligation for all the other roles and responsibilities you have to tackle. The book(s) you want to read, the blog you want to write, the vlog you want to film, the girls trip you soooooo need, the movies you want to watch, the pedicure you so desperately need, the haircut and color that is 12 months over due,
The eyebrow waxing you so clearly need…I could go on for eternity).
The noise in your brain caused by the constant racing thoughts and feelings of inadequacy is freaking exhausting. My brain hurts from the self hatred and I need to give myself some grace. They say this is a season of life though. That it gets easier. That as the kids grow and become more independent you will slowly begin to sleep more and have more time as they don’t need you as much. While you long for that time you slowly despise its arrival because that means your babies are growing up and they aren’t babies anymore and for so long your self identity has been wrapped up in being their Mama Bear.
I’ve been at this mom gig for two years three months and counting and it’s been one amazing, God led, and beautiful experience thus far. But I’d be lying if I said it was easy or that I knew what I was doing or that I had the ability to juggle it all efficiently. My current state of life is chaotic, stressful, overwhelming and beautiful at the same time. I’m struggling to keep my sense of self and my identity as a woman in trying to navigate it all. Please know I’m trying. I ask for your patience, your grace and your support while I try to figure it all out. If I’m slow to return a call/text, didn’t send a thank you note for a gift, haven’t been able to make those plans to get together like we keep saying we will, or set that girls weekend up on the calendar etc I’m not intending to be a bad friend/sister/daughter/neighbor/person and please know I seriously crave the normal human interaction more than you will know as I sooo need it. I’m just currently dealing with a whirlwind of chaos and I don’t know what to do with myself half the time. It’s literally not you. It’s me. Totally me. Send prayers, positive thoughts/vibes and maybe wine? (Kind of kidding about the wine). And I’ll see you in a couple more years…
Crazy Jess ❤️
If you are reading this post it means one of two things…either you are a total Starbucks addict like I am…OR you are frugal like I am and would like to indulge in the deliciousness that Starbucks has to offer but you are too cheap, or…”frugal” to do so and you are looking for ways to bring the flavor of Starbucks to your kitchen to not miss out on life.
Either way, I’m glad you stopped by. This blog won’t be groundbreaking, it’s pretty much old news at this point, but indulge me if you don’t mind. Apparently this “Pink Drink” is a thing but I was totally unaware as I’m a coffee person more than a refresher or tea person when I do go to Starbucks so I had no clue…
Recently, as in like literally 6 weeks ago, I gave birth for the first time to a beautiful baby girl. In doing so I began the magical (somewhat hellish) journey of breastfeeding which I was totally not as prepared for as I thought. Turns out your milk supply sometimes can be inadequate or inconsistent, who knew. In spending countless hours researching ways to increase my supply, one of the suggestions I received from numerous people, Mom Groups etc was to try the mysterious Starbuck’s Secret Menu item called the “Pink Drink”. To be clear, it’s not necessarily the drink itself that has magical boob milk powers. Turns out coconut (milk, water etc) can have a positive impact on supply so they say.
With this in mind, and out of shear frustration that my baby girl is having way more formula in conjunction with my breast milk than I would like, I went to our local Starbuck’s where I know the barista by name (it’s sad really) and ordered it. It felt so unnatural and weird to order anything but my usual drink by the way (a grande iced vanilla latte with only 1 pump of vanilla syrup) Like I didn’t even know if I was saying it right…or if the barista would know what I’m talking about. Thankfully he knew exactly what it was and the ordering process was pretty seamless.
My thoughts after trying it was that it was amazing. It is delicious and different. It is very light and refreshing making it perfect for summer/warm weather. I felt kind of bad paying $5 a pop for it, especially considering the volume I will be drinking in my quest to see if it will help my milk supply. So I decided I would figure out a way to make it myself and off to the store I went to buy all the ingredients.
The recipe I used can be found here:
Before you try this at home, please know there are quite a few different variations of the rip off recipes for this drink when you Google it which was a little overwhelming. I had a hard time narrowing down which recipe I wanted to go with at first but chose the one that seemed the easiest.
The final verdict is that it was just as good as the $5 a pop original and here’s hoping it helps my milk supply (along with the many other things I’m eating/taking/doing to increase my supply in conjunction with this)
Until next time…
XOXO, Crazy Jess
Long time no see…I know it’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted a blog or vlog however I did post a Life Update last week for those interested in my mediocre YouTube channel. Please don’t forget to like, comment & subscribe! I hope to post some new and exciting content in the coming weeks so stay tuned!
I feel like I start out every blog or vlog with the same note about how I’m so sorry it’s been so long since my last post…and I truly am. But life is crazy at the moment (more info on that in the coming weeks)…however in the meantime, I did want to share what I have been up to in an attempt to try to cut the chaos in our lives the best I can.
So with that said…
I am in no way a perfect homemaker, wife or Mom. I’m the first to admit that. But I have implemented a few life hacks in to my weekly routine that have definitely made a huge positive impact on my anxiety, stress level and sanity. When my home is cluttered or not organized I feel very overwhelmed, but at the same time I’m always so busy that some weeks I have a total lack of control of the chaos. Even though the thought of being lazy and not doing these things is appealing sometimes (ok all of the time, after all I have many hours of Real Housewives of ____ on my DVR to catch up on), I remember how less stressful and anxious I will be in the upcoming week once it’s all done and push myself to make them happen.
I plan out the outfits that Baby K is going to where for the entire week, and sometimes I do this for myself as well, although inconsistently. I always do this for him though. Doing this once a week for the next seven days is a huge time saver and makes our morning routine so much easier.
My chef hubby hates to stick to a planned menu but I really like it because I always know what we are to have and when. This allows me to make a corresponding grocery list and results in only having to go to the store once a week rather than multiple times. It also helps hold me accountable for my diet and what I’m eating. Failing to plan results in me making poor food choices and as far as I have come post op after having gastric bypass that is not good and will not help me make it to my final weight loss goal. It’s also perfect for those days you get home and your brain hurts and you don’t want to have to think about anything you just want to automatically know what to cook and get to it. We then write down the weekly menu on the notes section of our dry erase calendar in the kitchen and mark off what we cooked. This also allows us to move things around when necessary in case our day doesn’t go as planned.
This, hands down has been a saving grace for us lately. After we decide what we are going to eat for the week, I then log in to our favorite grocery stores website and place an online grocery order for pick-up. Not only is this a HUGE time saver, in that I don’t spend an hour mindlessly going up and down each aisle with no plan on what I’m buying, but it’s also saved us huge amounts of money as we are strictly sticking to what’s on our list for the week. Since we have started this, we spend only $50 a week on groceries, where before we would spend anywhere from $100-$150 (in multiple trips throughout the week) because we weren’t planning effectively. This is a must try if you haven’t already done so.
Some weeks I am not as adamant about marking everything off the list but I do have a daily/weekly to do list that is on the wall in the kitchen. It is framed so we can use a dry erase marker and mark off what we have gotten accomplished for the day/week as we go. I have it broken down in to tasks to do daily, and tasks to do on a certain day of the week such as laundry, cleaning, miscellaneous to-dos etc. See below an example of the one I created. My husband and our family make fun of me for this but it really helps me stay organized and I feel a sense of accomplishment as I get to mark off something from the list each day.
Like all families I found that we were literally drowning in laundry. Dirty piles, clean piles that need to be folded, piles that we can’t remember if we washed or not, piles that were folded but never put away etc. What we realized however, is that the reason we always had so much laying around is because we were consistently waiting until everything was dirty and then trying to do a laundry marathon in one day washing six loads of laundry back to back. That is total insanity! Who has time to wash, dry, fold and put away six loads of laundry in one day? I’m over it by maybe the second load if we are being honest. So, we developed a laundry schedule which has us only doing one load of laundry a day and that one load is washed, dried, folded and put away all in the same day so it’s not nearly as overwhelming. It’s been amazing and I haven’t run out of clean clothes yet since trying it.
Example Laundry Schedule:
Wednesday: Darks (Hubby’s)
Friday: Baby K’s Clothes
Sunday: Darks (Mine)
I love to read but most people don’t know that about me. Why? Because I’m always so busy they have never actually seen a book in my hands, or if they have, they have seen it took me 12 months to read it. Reading is a stress reliever for me that for so long I didn’t make time for. I have found now that I am reading every evening instead of falling asleep to my Facebook feed that I’m sleeping a lot better at night. Coincidence? Maybe. But it’s currently working for me so I’m going to go with it. It’s also helping me knock out quite a few books on my “must read” list.
So that’s it. That is my current top 6 life hacks to cut the daily/weekly chaos of a full-time working, wife, mom and human. What are some of your life hacks that save you time and sanity during the week? Share below!
As always, thank you for reading and I hope you will subscribe if you aren’t already. I can promise you mediocre posts on an inconsistent basis that you definitely won’t want to miss out on regarding, makeup & beauty, saving money/good deals, life post-up weight loss surgery, foster parenting, being a wife and mom and other general life musings. LOL 🙂
Until next time,
XOXO Crazy Jess 😘
************************************ Stay tuned for a future post update post on these Future Goals listed below (maybe 2018 resolutions?) to see how I did or what I did to make them happen.